please pass the m&ms

I feel overwhelmingly stressed lately. This has far surpassed the slight worry over what I’m going to make for dinner or the best way to organize my prized box of multicolored beanie babies that’s hidden away in a locked, temperature controlled storage room on the other side of town. They are worth so much money, they really do deserve the best treatment.  I’m deep into the realm of feeling like I’m trapped on the beach and someone is burying me alive under the weight of a thousand pounds of sand. I’m suffocating. The weird part is – nothing has really changed, so I don’t know why it has come on so suddenly. That’s likely the problem – I’m ready for a change that just hasn’t come yet.

So, today I’ve convinced my husband to finally go see Beauty and the Beast with me. And, you know what… I’m throwing caution to the wind. I’m going for the M&Ms. No, fuck it. I’m getting peanut M&Ms. I’m so tired of having to count/measure every single bite that goes into my damn mouth. Why can’t I just be naturally skinny like my siblings? I really got screwed on the gene pool. Being in a constant state of trying to lose weight and work out has me feeling like I’m tiptoeing into crazy town. Why can’t pizza, cupcakes, and a plate of good southern bbq be healthy and rabbit food be what’s killing us? Why, God, WHY? Why do this to us? The inhumanity. (Okay, I’m done with my hissy-fit. Nothing to see here. Carry on.)

The only thing that’s blatantly spiking my anxiety is my cats, so if you’re a cat lover/owner/trainer/whatever,  and you have any advice for a situation I’m in – it would be much appreciated. I don’t want to go deep into it on here, but it has to do with cats not getting along/stalking/litter box aggression. If you could message me on Twitter or email me at theshamefulsheep@yahoo.com I’ll love you forever and maybe even send you cookies. Or maybe I’ll just eat a cookie in your honor. That’s the same…right?

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    1. It’s strange, isn’t it? It’s been raining a lot here lately – I guess that could be why. Who knows. I feel like spring coming should make us feel happier, but it seems to be doing the opposite with a lot of people. I hope you feel better soon 🙂

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  1. I gave up dieting. Better fat and happy than fat and miserable. But then, dieting never worked for me. I always gained it back no matter what I did.

    Nothing for you on the cats. I have two, but they adore each other. We actually got the second to keep the first one company because he was so lonely while we’re at work.

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    1. Oh man, I’m jealous. I wish my cats got along. They sleep together and groom each other at night, then have issues during the day. It makes zero sense lol. Honestly, since I’ve been married, I haven’t really cared all that much about losing weight. The ONLY reason I stick to it is because I want to be as healthy as possible because my husband and I plan on having kids soon. After that… we’ll see hahaha.

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  2. Ech. I’m sorry about the litter box thing. That is stressful. Pets are jerks sometimes. We solved it by waiting it out until all but one died of natural causes. I can’t believe we’re down to just one cat.

    Counting food? Yeah. I relate. I’m lucky in that I can eat pretty much whatever I want, but not as much as I want. Still sucks.

    I hope you feel better really soon. Enjoy your date!

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    1. Oh man, I wish I could eat whatever I wanted just portioned. That would be amazing for me. I have a weird hormone issue and have to pretty much each low carb to lose any amount of weight unless I want to be on a lot of prescriptions. Which I HATE. It’s terrible. Pets really can be assholes. Especially cats. lol

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  3. I was just told to let go and let God about the dress that is making me physically sick. I am not the best decision maker and this is a big decision I am facing. I get on my own nerves pretty frequently. Cats even sibling cats will be aggressive on occssion. I wish I had advice. I do not. Take care and share your thoughts on beauty and the beast!!!

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  4. Tired, tired, tired of dieting! My husband has lost 75 pounds. In the same amount of time, I’ve lost 3. I’m sure it’s related to the emotional snacks–you know: happy/sad/mad/whatever. I’m often tempted not to worry about it any more–and then my knees hurt, or a hip. I don’t have any advice, but I’m a rock star of commiseration. Eat the damn M&Ms. Both kinds.

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    1. Oh god. MEN. WHY do they have to lose weight so much easier than us? My husband does the same thing. It’s completely maddening. I have trouble losing weight already due to hormones, but my husband barely has to eat right, as long as he works out a little… he will drop weight. Good luck on your journey 🙂 And, I hate the damn m&ms alright! The whole pack. Mmm

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  5. I’m with ED on this one. I literally SAID that only a few days ago: I’m ‘resigned’ to being fat and (reasonably) happy than being thin and miserable…. Only, who was I kidding?! It was just to make my two sisters (both dieting at the time and giving me ‘the look’ and explaining why they diet – as if I [make this a bold i please!] would care in the least). And as a fervent dog lover I have absolutely no advice on fight-willing cats. I once took a cat home and that young little thing so dominated my dog that I had to bring it back on Monday 🙂 You see; I have NO authority whatsoever and I’m a week, lazy underdog in daily life.
    Anyway, take all the M&Ms, peanuts and whatever and just simply ENJOY the evening out!!!!

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    1. Aw, your poor pup. Cats can be such assholes sometimes. Seriously lol. I don’t mind being a little extra fluffy, and I would ease up a lot on the weight loss goals if we didn’t want to have kids soon. I feel like I need to be as healthy as I possible can for that, so the pressure is always on. Ahh! And, I ate the damn m&ms! And some of my husband’s nachos and blue raspberry slushie. It was a fun time 😀

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      1. Aaaahhhhh – YES, in THAT case you MUST be taking care of yourself a bit more… 😉 OR you must hope to be so terribly ill for the whole 9 months (it’s actually 40 weeks so that makes it ‘more or less’ nearly 10 months…. auch!) that you don’t feel like eating anything…. no scrap that – I DO sincerely hope that you can get preggie, that you will feel (mostly) good about it and that your body can take it just as nature has provided humans for.
        Meanwhile enjoy all the outings you can get because afterwards you’re housebound for a loooon time. And a bit later on you’ll have to share all your M&Ms and slushies (I don’t even want to know what a slushie is, it sounds dreadful!!! LOL)
        Have a brilliant weekend 🙂

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        1. Blair (The Shameful Sheep) Author

          It’s okay – I’d love a good reason to be housebound 😀 I’m sure you guys have slushies over there! Just called something different I presume. They are just icy sugary drinks. Kind of like a liquidized snow cone. (I’m terrible at explaining things lol) Hope your weekend is awesome, too 🙂

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  6. Amy

    I too am a constant calorie counter! However, in all of my dieting endeavors, I have found it most productive to not deprive myself of anything. For the most part, I eat what I want and just work a little harder. Long story short, you ENJOY those M&Ms.

    Also, I have faced a similar cat situation. So, feel free to reach out to me: idiosyncraticunicorn@cheerful.com if you do not receive helpful advice.

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    1. Oh man, I WISH I was a calorie counter, but it doesn’t seem to work for some of my health issues 🙁 I have to count carbs. Which is really hard for me on some days because, well… BREAD. Hello! Mmm… bread. I have some things I’m going to try with my cats for a bit, if they don’t work, I’ll 100% email you. Thanks for the offer 😀

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  7. Three things:

    Learn to love yourself, sweet, as you are. Sure, it’s good to be mindful of your weight and to try to stay healthy, but each person’s healthy is different because we’re all individuals. (How nice!) Be kind to yourself and don’t beat yourself up over a few peanut M&Ms. You’re clearly loved just the way you are.

    Second, I suspect at least some of the stress you’re experiencing is coming from the fact that you’ve begun to write with serious intent.

    Third, I’ll email you about the cats.

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    1. Aw, that was so kind 😀 Thank you <3. I'm okay with my weight… some days. Sure, I'd like to wear a smaller pant size and be able to rock a bathing suit without cringing, but that's fine. I solely do it for health reasons. My husband and I want to have kids soon, so I'm just trying to be at the healthiest I can get myself to be. Otherwise I'd cut myself WAY more slack lol. And, I 100% think you're right about the book. I think my mind consumption on writing has played a roll on the stress levels. Hmm

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    1. Remember back in the day when Beanie Babies were popular, and everyone expected them to be worth thousands of dollars one day? Yep… not so much! lol. I guess giving the cats M&Ms would work to some extent, because the chocolate would kill them. Then it would definitely fix the bickering. Not sure how I feel about that solution though 😀

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  8. Not a cat expert at all, but did watch many many episodes of My Cat From Hell so that makes me kind of an expert right? Anyways make sure you have enough litter boxes, one for each cat. That’s the main thing Jackson Galaxy always said.

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  9. Totally relate to your cat issues. My 17-month-old makes life hell for the 17-yo and the 6-yo with stalking, ambushing, and generally being an asshole. Screaming and time-outs haven’t helped much except to make him wary of me. What works is play using toys on sticks. While I march around the living room doing my 10K daily steps, I swing and drag these things. He sits and watches more than he actually plays, but it keeps his mind off the other cats.

    As for dieting, been counting points for 5 years and recently gained 20 lbs. in a 2-month span and nothing fits. Why, God, why?

    No advice really. Just know that you’re not alone. We hear you.

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    1. Thank you 😀 My cat is 17 months old, too. Maybe they are siblings. They seem to act the same lol. Wand toys definitely help keep her mind off the other cat. It’s the only thing that works to distract her. I haven’t tried time outs yet, or locking her in a different room for a bit. I think I’m going to set up a new litter/cat area in a spare room and see if it works for her. I don’t want her to be wary of me. She is the sweetest kitty when it comes to people lol

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  10. Anxiety blows…I had an anxiety attack this past weekend(which for me is about two days of insane panic that almost makes me feel physically ill.) Sometimes there is a reason, other times they come out of nowhere. Enjoy those delicious M&M’s, not everyday has to be a strict diet day. Be kind to yourself and continue eating as healthy as you can.

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  11. That’s the same stress feeling I have (on a beach being covered with sand…or waves coming in and I can’t run fast enough to avoid drowning). It manifests in my dreams…not often, but sometimes. Sorry you are feeling anxious these days.

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  12. Well…I have 4 furballs, and some litter-box stalking in the past. What worked for us was when the box-hoarder started getting territorial, she got locked in the bathroom (which is where the OTHER litter box was located at the time) for a good 20 minutes, until she’d finished her hissy fit and the other cats had an opportunity to use the box she was trying to defend.

    Once there was another cat’s offerings in there, she stopped defending ‘her’ box.

    Now we have no problems.

    Can’t help you on the dieting thing – I believe that everyone has to figure out which eating patterns work for their particular life situation. Keto may work for me, but it’s a discipline that many can’t commit to …same for low fat, vegan, veggie, SAD, paleo, fat & happy, and etc. unto nauseum…

    And for the anxiety – right now, I think everyone in the States with half a brain is anxious as hell right now with Washington’s 3 ring circus performance. We’ve survived pathetic administrations before…we’ll survive this one, too.

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    1. Oh man, I hope locking my cat away works that well. We are going to make a separate area for her now with her own box/food/water area, and hopefully if they have separate spaces there will be no need to defend when they are together. Who knows. I’m hopeful that works as well as it did for your cats! I am a keto eater, too. I enjoy it 98% of the time, because there are actually a lot of good recipes out there when you look. Keto works the best for some medical issues I have. It’s really the only way I can lose weight. But… I LOVE bread. Mmm bread.

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      1. For bread – I found a sprouted rye at Trader Joes which only has 4 net carb per slice. Still ‘pricey’ in the carb department, but it can be worked in. I get just enough toast to satisfy the bread cravings without having to make my own.

        I also found Atkin’s has a peanut M&M’s substitute with a low carb-count…AND I just tried Atkin’s Peanut Butter Cups last night. I no longer miss my Reses’.

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        1. Oh yeah, I love that stuff that Atkin’s has out. Their peanut butter cups are amazing. I’m so cheap, that it pains me to pay for some of that stuff sometimes. I don’t know why – it’s worth it. My cheapness plagues me haha. I need to take a trip to Trader Joes for sure. I found pita bread from a brand called “Joseph’s” that’s 5 net carbs, too. Makes it easier to make a sandwich/salad pita, and sometimes we make little pizzas on them and grill them on the grill. It seriously saves me so much. It’s amazing.

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      2. What’s that KETO stuff? A diet? And sorry for taking over your space so often…. I am lying on my belly and ask for forgiveness – btw, stress (in my case) often is created by taking on the stressful situation of somebody else (my Hero Husband is a good example, I know him better than he knows himself). We find ourselves often at the very same moment running for the toilet after he had a difficult phone call or something else…. it’s quite crazy. I had to ask him to give up one job because he was holding in the frustration and the mobbing from up high and I went totally to pieces (skin, eye-sight, hair loss, the lot)…. It’s therefore probable that your pets feel YOUR stress and act it out in their way. You can give them homeopathy too – I did that with my family, with my kid, my dog – it works a treat. And take it for yourelf too – but search for a GOOD homeopath…. I was so fascinated by it that I studied it for years, next to family and job – and now I have sadly all but forgotten what I learned. But still hesitant to take any pharmaceutical stuff at all….

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        1. Blair (The Shameful Sheep) Author

          Feel free to take it over as much as you’d like 😀 I enjoy it. Keto is basically low carb. Just another type of way to eat, really. And… my husband has been quite stressed out lately, and I KNOW it’s a factor as well! My mood always coincides with how he’s feeling. I hate it, but love it at the same time. I haven’t looked into the homeopathic stuff yet. My brother went that route for some issues he was having and said it worked wonders. I really need to check it out!

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  13. Peanuts are nuts. Nuts are good for you. Chocolate is beans, Beans are good for you. Dieting doesn’t work, only gentle exercise will – go for strolls, run around the house after your cats. Two litter boxes in different rooms, ignore bad behaviour and reward good behaviour with treats. That’s for the cats, not you lol xxx

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    1. Great rationalization for the M&Ms. I’m going with it! Haha. I do run every other day, and it definitely helps the situation. I think that’s the ONLY thing that’s keeping my weight coming off instead of packing on right now, because I’ve been having too many bites of “bad” foods lately lol.

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  14. Really?! So at times of anxiety you go to watch…wait for it…Beauty & the Beast?! You didn’t learn anything from my post about… 😀

    For the cats: There isn’t peace with ALL of them. Slow, gentle approach is mostly king, and raising self some is the best to understand them.

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  15. Enjoy the movie. And the M&M’s! Then please post a full review of said movie. Thank you. 😀

    Also, if you’re feeling locked in by the calorie counting, look into IIFYM. Message me if you want, no problem. 🙂

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    1. I enjoyed the movie and my candy, alright! They were both great 😀 I have no idea what IIFYM is, so I’m on my way to Google it now! I actually don’t count calories – I count carbs. Keto is really the only thing that works for me. I’m going to check out your thing, though 😀

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      1. I hope Amy doesn’t mind me jumping in here. if it fits your macros. If you’re already counting carbs, it might be something you’d like. Also called flexible dieting. It’s super helpful for people who need a specific number or ratio of protein/fat/carbs. It can also be good for weight loss/gain/maintenance because protein and carbs have 4 calories per gram and fat has 9 calories per gram, so if you’re counting macros, you are by default also controlling calories.

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        1. I looked over it briefly, but haven’t delved into it too deep. Went to a calculator and typed in all my stats to see what it gave me. It seems like a LOT of counting, and recommended me 250 carbs a day! I don’t know if I’ll lose weight on that, sadly. I wish! I guess it won’t hurt too much to try.

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      2. “If it Fits Your Macros” is the only way I can diet and maintain my sanity. And my calorie deficit. Without it, I would go crazy. I also use Intermittent Fasting because it keeps binge eating in the evenings to a minimum. 🙂

        Glad you enjoyed your movie!! I know you’re trying to write a book on top of everything else. Sometimes you just gotta let go a little. 🙂

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  16. It’s ok to eat your peanut M&M’s once in a while. Big picture is it’s not going to set you back longer then a week or two. Heck I am going to a seafood and wine festival at the end of the month and I am not logging ANY OF IT! So enjoy the movie, enjoy the M&M’s!!

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  17. It must be something in the water. I’m dealing with some anxiety lately too; crushing anxiety over not-a-god-damned-thing. Maybe I just need some m&m’s? Because you’re totally making them sound oh-so-good

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  18. We must all be going through the same weird phase, but, as they say “And this too shall pass!”
    I too have been out of sorts lately but am getting back to my usual self. So, enjoy that movie, eat those M&M’s (in moderation, mind you) and soon you will be back to your old self.
    We all need some down time every now and then as long as we get back up.
    Take care and thanks for sharing.

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  19. ‘Waiting for a change that just hasn’t come yet’ I wonder if it’s the time of year. Spring, rebirth, fresh growth…and me just stagnating inside waiting for it to stop raining for the love of….
    Maybe your cats are picking up on your energy. I know when I’m stressed my dog decides to mess with me by being a jerk face, my kids all seem to act up, my husband starts being annoying….until I take a deep breath and realize it might actually be me that’s my own worse enemy and not the universe lol Chin up sweetie and get ready for that change…and let us know when it happens because I’m looking for ideas 😉

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    1. It’s very possible they are picking up on my stress.I didn’t really think about that. But… I’ve noticed them feed off my energy before. Man, it’s been raining a lot here, too. I wish it would stop, because it definitely doesn’t help the mood around here!

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  20. Hope you enjoy your M&Ms. You deserve them. You got good info on cats from other commenters. One litter box for each and an extra. Some in different locations. I also use Feliway plug-ins. It’s not miraculous but it helps. Lots of catnip. Cat issues are always worrisome.

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    1. I actually forgot about Feliway. I don’t have the plugins, but I do have the spray that’s by the same brand. It actually seems to be helping a bit. Catnip is helping distract too! Whew. Hopefully they both continue to help moving forward. And…the M&Ms were totally worth it. Yum.

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  21. There seems to be a lot of anxiety/depression going around these days. Maybe it’s a neurological thing, but I sometimes wonder if some of it is because so many of us are wasting time doing/buying the things, or trying to achieve the things socieity tells us we must in order to be happy, even though none of those things mean a damn thing.

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      1. I have wasted so much time doing things – or not doing things, out of fear and because of self-esteem issues. Be a goody two-shoes and good things will happen to you. Be a doormat/people pleaser and everyone will like you. Take the safe route and nothing bad will ever happen to you. All that did was exhaust me, fill me full of anxiety and make me resentful of others. I’m ready for something else.

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  22. Turn off the television. Anxiety solved. The cat box thing? I have a cat that poops like an 80 pound dog and is so proud that said poop remains on top of the litter. No one should have to be cajoled into going to see a Fairy Tale. I was under the impression M&Ms were a food group…

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  23. Sorry about the anxiety. I sometimes feel the same. But for me . . . a lot has changed. About the cats . . . I don’t know the situation, but have you tried getting an additional litter box? I know that might be easier said than done . . . space and time and all . . but it could help. Also what about those cat pheromone things? Either something you spray or one that you plug in? I was looking into that when the two cats we brought home – who are supposedly sisters – were not being nice. The tiny one would attack the bigger one. But by the time I decided to invest in it they calmed down. Could be that they are sensing your anxiety and acting out the only way they know how.

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    1. That’s very true, I tend to think they feed off my anxiety. I don’t know why I didn’t think of that until now lol. I’m a bit slow sometimes! I DO have a phermone spray that I totally forgot about. I started using it yesterday and it seems to be helping quite a bit! That, and lots of catnip. Seems like it’s doing the trick so far. Thanks for the advice 😀 I hope your anxiety gets better soon!

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      1. Ha. I am not one to give advice regarding cats because they are all so different (yet all so crazy). I was merely suggesting. 🙂 I think some of the anxiety is from changing hormones. But it is difficult to know how much because for me death always causes anxiety and having to deal with all the crap that comes with it might just send me off the deep end. If it weren’t for my cats I am sure I WOULD be off the deep end. My cats are sisters and they get a long. Good luck with your kitties. I am sending you calming hugs my bloggy friend!

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  24. elizabetcetera

    Yeah about the anxiety thing … I’ve been having a lot of that recently without good reason. Perhaps a change of seasons?!?

    Just so you know B&B is a loud movie! Loud I tell ya! Enjoy the peanut M&Ms! No one will hear you stuffing g your mouth. In fact, you’ll no longer be able to hear yourself think about your anxiety while you watch this ear buster!

    The cats … Have one more litter box than cats. Try to give any of your cats alone time if possible … Like let one into the garage by himself or in a room alone. Also, take each cat aside and give them some one on one Mommy time. Play with them to tire the sh*t out of them too! Feed them at regular times, keep their litter boxes as clean as possible. Keep your stress as low as possible to help the moggies! Good luck and keep us posted!

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    1. I didn’t think the movie was too loud. Hmm! Sorry you got your ears blown out lol. Did you like the movie otherwise?

      You gave me some awesome cat advice – THANKS. My husband and I are going to give both of our cats their own bedroom and try to give them a lot of alone time full of attention and play time multiple times a day so when they are together they are calmer. Hopefully it works! It’s something we haven’t really tried yet because we were afraid separating could cause stress, too. But… guess we won’t know until we try! They eat at the same time twice a day and their litter boxes are cleaned frequently, so hopefully this separation will work 🙂

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  25. I am hearing a lot about dieting but not much about exercise. Working out is what makes you feel strong and healthy and sexy. It also increases your appetite, and since you need fuel to work out and feed your muscles, you get to eat more. Don’t eat junk, but a carb won’t kill you and neither will an M&M. Women especially need to start weight training. It’s great for everything, including elevating your mood. Muscle burns fat, not starvation. Starvation breeds misery. Counting calories breeds resentment and kills one of life’s greatest pleasures- food!

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    1. Oh, I 100% agree with everything you said. I actually workout quite a bit – running, yoga, and I do weight training. It always makes me feel better, and I’m slowly (very slowly) starting to love it. Not gonna lie, it’s taken me a long time to even slightly enjoy it lol.

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      1. Even when I have a dry spell and need to get back on track it gets difficult. So long as we keep getting back on the horse. I’ve been meaning to start yoga for so long now. I want to make this the year I stick to it. 30 days straight is my goal, maybe next month?

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  26. Tish MacWebber

    Cats. If they have box issues, try to have one more boxes than the number of cats in your home. Difficult in a multi cat household, but it works.
    Stress. Find a new hobby. If you can’t fix what is stressing you out, distraction is a good plan.

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    1. I always went by the idea that you only needed one litter box per cat – didn’t realize it was 1 per cat PLUS an extra. So, I’ll be adding in another one this weekend 🙂 Thanks for the advice. I’m on the hunt for a new hobby for sure. I love hobbies lol

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      1. Tish MacWebber

        If one each is not enough, give that a try.
        It doesn’t matter if it’s from the dollar store, just to keep the peace.
        If you need help in the hobby department, I have lots of hobbies. Have a nice weeeknd!

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  27. Sorry to hear you’re stressed, Blair. Everyone deals with it differently so what may work for me might not work for you. I hope you get all of your issues taken care of with your cats. Feel better.

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  28. I agree with the “add a litter box” comments. As well, there are various products (food, supplements, sprays) that promise to help calm cats – I suggest talking to your vet on that. If one cat isn’t getting along, providing a place where that cat can be undisputed king might help. Cats are strange creatures.

    I would seriously love it if bbq was the low-cal miracle food of the 21st century. I have to say though, chocolate M&Ms are better than peanut M&Ms in my world.

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    1. My husband and I are going to try exactly that this weekend. Giving each cat their own bedrooms full of their favorite stuff. That way we can separate and do some 1 on 1 cuddling/play time/treat time. Hopefully it works! We have the phermone/calming spray – and it seems to be helping at least a little bit. Whew. Mmm bbq food. It really doesn’t get much better.

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  29. As far as kitty is concerned…have you changed anything recently? I didn’t read through ALL the comments so I apologize if I’m doubling up here. When we recently moved, we decided we would not bring in the second cat tree because that cat rarely used it at the old place. He started peeing in boxes so we rushed him to the vet. Of course the fat A-hole was healthy has a…cat. We brought in the second cat tree and viola…no more peeing in boxes. They are temperamental (mostly mental) creatures of habit. Good luck!!

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    1. No changes, actually! We added a new desk recently, but the cats are constantly sleeping on it in the sun and seem to love it. They’ve never had an issue with moving stuff around before, so I really don’t think that’s it. Hmm… Oh man, if my cats start peeing out of their boxes… I won’t be very happy haha.

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  30. A vet told me once that whenever you have more than one cat, one will be dominant, one will be submissive…no matter what. I have struggled with litter box/food bowl issues too. I think the 1 box per cat +1 extra rule can help in some cases. I also think that sometimes the aggressive bully cat can be more jealous and insecure than anything else, so a little reassurance (even though you’re feeling exasperated) can work. Have not had much luck with calming stuff like Rescue Remedy or Feliway. Good luck…this is a tough one. <3

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    1. Thank you <3 Weirdly enough, the litter box aggressor is the submissive one. (I'm pretty sure, at least!) She's the younger cat. If the older cat chases her (even if they are playing!) the younger cat will instantly flop over and show submission. It seems to almost scare her sometimes even when it seems like harmless fun. So, maybe the younger cat is trying to take over the dominant role. Who knows! Cats… mysterious beings lol. I'm using one of the calming sprays and it seems to be helping a little. My husband and I are going to work on separating them and giving lots of 1 on 1 play time/cuddle time and see how it goes. They are such sweet cats. Just want them to be happy together.

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  31. angela1313

    You are getting a lot of good advice on cats and everything. I did read the other comments before putting in my 2 cents just to save repeating. Everybody i know is having elevated levels of anxiety these days. If it were a germ born illness they would be declaring an epidemic. But I am with Melissa that the serious writing is probably adding to your stress. Glad you enjoyed the movie AND the M&Ms. All we can do is the best we can and I think you are doing great..

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    1. Blair (The Shameful Sheep) Author

      Thank you so much 🙂 I did get some great advice – and I’ve already tried some out with a bit of success. Hopefully it continues in a positive direction with this stinky kitty. I definitely think the writing is playing a factor in the stress. I didn’t even think of that before!

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  32. Cats give me anxiety. But only because I’m extremely allergic to them! I love them though. But from a distance. Good for you for treating yourself! I mean, I think it is great you are eating healthier and working out but we’re all human – we need a treat once in awhile, damn it! You just reminded me – need to try the celery and peanut butter snack. I happen to love both but have never had it together.

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    1. Blair (The Shameful Sheep) Author

      Oh man, you MUST eat celery and peanut butter together. I eat it literally every day. It’s amazing 🙂 Man, that’s sad about the cats. I would be devastated if I was allergic! lol

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    1. Blair (The Shameful Sheep) Author

      I LOVE that show, but haven’t watched in a very long time 🙂 I’m sure there’s been episodes who have had the same sort of issue as mine. I’ll have to hunt one down!

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  33. Stay calm, don’t stress it and dig into those M&Ms. I am surprised and also happy that I am as calm as I am this month. I always go for the April poetry challenge and that means thirty poems in thirty days, then there is Easter Sunday and Easter Monday for us here in Latvia and the beat goes on. I am way behind everything, exhausted from the change of season and wondering how I will get through it all but panic no way I really cannot afford it so if I can handle all this you can handle what you have to handle and remember your treat will be that candy.

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    1. Blair (The Shameful Sheep) Author

      Very true! Wow, that’s a lot of stuff to do for April. I don’t think I could manage a poem every day for 30 days. I’d go crazy lol 😀 Good luck! The M&Ms were definitely a great treat. Mmm

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    1. Blair (The Shameful Sheep) Author

      Oh man, sorry I took so long to respond to this! I’m the same way, though. I feel like if I step into Dunkin Donuts or somewhere seeping with sugar, I will instantly put on a pound. It’s terrible!

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